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It would be a very narrow take on the world and life as we know it if we were to assume that the only issues we face as a human race are those of the women. Over the many decades a lot of work and effort has been put into highlighting the injustices that societies around the world have been putting into the women's lot. While the work is both necessary and needed, it has to some extent over shadowed the fact that men also have issues.

The fact that men's issues aren't so vigorously discussed is also a big result of the fact that men don't really come up and admit that they are going through a problem until it really gets out of hand. Top of the list in this area would be the relations troubles that all men say they ‘never' have. For many men, handling relationships often becomes a problem. Creating the right balance between their professional life and personal life, bonding, creating the right feeling, actually committing, etc are all issues that men struggle with in relationships.

For a lot of guys, it becomes difficult to acknowledge that they are depressed about their work life or personal life. They keep going on with the depression looming over them and actually do themselves a great injustice simply by not taking the help that is out there.

Leaving depression unchecked and untreated will harm anyone, regardless of gender. For men, this means either a relationship breakup, or a breakdown at work or both. Depression is also the number one cause of suicide. For many men, the ever increasing working hours now mean that they don't get to spend much time with their families. Missing time with little kids and bringing them up, missing quality couple time, all create tensions which add to the stress at work. In fact research has shown that employees rely on their family and friends for support to get through work stress. In the absence of family support, or the opportunity to be with family they will go from stress to depression. This depression then takes a toll on their professional life as well. It becomes a vicious circle.

Dealing with these issues requires both family support as well as an initiative on your part. If you're reading this article for your spouse, look at how his work schedule is, how he expresses his feelings about his life as a whole. If he feels that life is a burden or he is just ‘getting it over with' he is definitely depressed and should be encouraged to get help. Sure your moral support is vital and will help him immensely but depression is a medical condition that needs professional treatment. A psychologist will help in understanding where the depression is coming from and how to deal with it.

Also it isn't necessary that a man actually have a bad or non-progressive career to be depressed. Although this may be one, but it's not the only reason. Other reasons may be his past, the kind of home he had as a child, the kind f life he had as he grew up, his own self-image, etc. These are areas that need looking into as much as the current life of the man. Good luck and have a fulfilling life!

• John Palsson
• 18/12/2008, 2:59 AM
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